Pet Peeve

I usually try and stay a generally positive person overall, but sometimes I'll have something bothering me that really drives me crazy that I can't get over without ranting about it. And this is fairly important to me and was really ruffling my feathers lately. So here goes...

Pet Peeve:
People who seem to emphasize the hard and bad parts of pregnancy, babyhood, and parenting. I know it will be hard. I know it will be exhausting. I know I'll be clueless. I know I'll feel like the worst mother ever. I don't know the exact details of everything but I am aware of the responsibility and hardship. We don't need to dwell on those aspects, especially when giving advice to new moms and compound the built up worries that are already in their head. Especially to me, a worry wart and an intense planner. I already got the feelings of inadequacy and regret (a tiny bit out of fear of the unknown future) and apprehension down myself, so if you could just hand out positive words to me like pretzels, that would be much appreciated. No, it isn't going to boost my ego or confidence so much that I will be in a state of delusion. Maybe for some people, but not for me. I worry and fear about big things in life by my nature so you rubbing it in with "your nipples are going to bleed" and "you will never sleep again" and "you will lost your sense of identity in taking care of children" and "you're going to be fat and saggy and exercising and eating right doesn't always fix it" and "your baby will rule your life and cry nonstop like mine, and when she does stop, you'll have another one" and "children are the hardest and most frustrating things on this entire planet" on and on IS NOT HELPING ME. If nothing was hard in life, then we wouldn't grow. I know I will grow and it will be hard. So hearing nightmare stories will give me anxiety. People also told me when I was engaged and first married, "oh the first year of marriage is the hardest, its such a difficult transition, get ready for that, cuz it sucks." They. were. totally. wrong. The first year of my marriage was one of the easiest years of our marriage and has been so happy after that as well. Hearing these negative (or so called "realistic") opinions only created unnecessary anxiety and worry. So stop please. Only positive vibes here.

So now I am very selective about what I read, who I listen to, and who I seek advice from. Because I am realizing that many, many people looove to try and scare the crap out of you because they had an awful experience of their own. Keep it to yourself.